Sometimes I feel a little disappointed...

Have you ever had something disappoint you or been disappointed by something? Of course, we all have at some point in our lives. Disappointment is a feeling I prefer not to experience. I do not like to be disappointed, nor do I like to disappoint. I know throughout my life, some of my decisions have disappointed or have been a disappointment to family and friends because of decisions that affected them, my relationship with them, and me personally. I can honestly say that disappointing them was unintentional. Although some of the decisions I made have been "intentional" because those decisions had to do with what I deemed as proper or correct, based on the values instilled in me throughout my life and my belief in following a Christ-centered life, which I am almost positive is who I have disappointed the most in my life.

As crazy as it might sound, occasionally, it takes a painful disappointment to teach us a skill, strengthen our faith, or put us in the right place at the right time. Now I am not advocating we run out and test this by disappointing someone or ourselves. However, even in the critical moments in our life, God is in control of the situation. He is looking out for us. He is working out a plan that is bigger than we are, and we are going to be better for it in the end. What makes you say that you ask? It is written in Jeremiah 29:11 – "For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not disaster to give you a future and a hope." 

"…a future and a hope". Isn't that wonderful to know? So, we ask, how do we overcome life's little disappointments? First, we must believe in God's plan as it is written in Jeremiah. This is God's assurance to the people of His plans to prosper them and give them a hopeful future. Even when we do not see immediate results, we can remain assured of God's ultimate blessing and benefit. The fruit may not come immediately, but it will come ultimately.

We must grieve a little when things have not gone as we wanted. When our hopes and expectations have been defeated, we need some quiet time to be sad, mourning the way we thought things would be. Once we fight through grief, we need to remember disappointment is not meant to define us or hold us hostage. Remember, there is a greater plan for our lives, and we cannot give it power. We must overcome.

You had to know this next one was coming; we should pray. Spend some time talking to your Heavenly Father. Tell Him your heartache. Tell Him about the plans you had and ask Him to show you why He's taken them away. I promise you that He has good in this for you, and it's okay to ask Him what that good is.

What's next? Listen and wait. Big things happen when we pray. Sometimes, they are blessings beyond our expectations. Sometimes they happen right away, but usually, they happen much later when we least expect them. You must keep waiting. You will know when the prayer has been answered.

We must look for the good when we have experienced disappointment. This is the time when it's most challenging - and most important - to find the good, grab onto it with both hands, and celebrate it. We need to. Every day is a new day, with a new beginning. We have a choice to wallow in self-pity or to move forward in our faith, hope, joy, and love. Psalm 118:24 provides the instruction for us to follow each day, "This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it." It WILL make a difference and add value to our lives and the lives of others if we adopt this attitude.

I encourage each of us as leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations to understand we will have times in our lives when we are disappointed or disappoint others. We, as leaders, set an example for others, and we should not allow disappointment to take power over our lives. We should set the example of faith, hope, joy, and the unconditional love God provides us to overcome life's little pitfalls. Our example will become a teachable moment in the lives of others that will make a difference and add value. Jeremiah 29:11

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

It Gives Me Pause

I have been absent of late. There is no excuse for my absence other than a few life setbacks that have challenged my time management each day, and it took a little settling within and a few friends prodding me that it has been long enough to pause, take a breath, get my thoughts together, and get back to work. I thank them for using a velvet hammer to get the message across to me. I am humbled, to say the least.

I recently read that “Sin is not just the wrong stuff we do; it’s the good we do not do.” It can be interpreted this way,” “Every choice we make, and every action matters to someone. Every choice we do not make and every action we do not take matters just as much.” Amen? 

Our grandson is very interested in the creatures of the world. He loves anything that crawls, climbs, jumps, spends a web, flies, anyway, you get the drift; he likes bugs, lizards, spiders, snakes, and so forth. His four sisters loathe all these creatures and do not want anything to do with them: perfect situation for a big brother. He will spend hours in an animated state of observation when he encounters one of these creatures, especially turtles. When he finds one of these creatures, he just cannot look away; he is totally focused on its movement and actions. Then he finds some reference in a book or a documentary and learns all about the creature, and when I visit, I get an education on the life and activities of the latest find. Good stuff if you like creepy crawlies. Good stuff if you like to spend quality time with a grandson, just saying. 

The thing that most amazes me is his seamless delivery of information. He has studied these creatures and knows everything about them down to the smallest detail. As I listen, it gives me pause. 

This reminds me of something I read about PAUSE and studying our Bibles. The acronym for PAUSE:

P – Prepare your heart. Start your quiet time by reciting Psalm 131:1-2. Visualize everything competing for our attention into a box, then give the box to God to handle for us.

A – Ask God to speak to You. Before we dive into our Bible study, ask God to help us understand His Word and how to apply the scripture correctly to our life. We know He promised to give us His wisdom if we ask.

U – Unpack the passage. When was the passage written? Who was the intended audience? What was the main theme? What does the passage show you about God’s character? As we begin the study, we should read through the passage several times, each time answering a different question. Pay attention to any phrases and ideas that continue to stand out to us.

S – Summarize the scripture. What resonated with us as we were reading? Spend several minutes asking God to show us the truths in His Word, and then log the key takeaways from the passage. This will help us process and track the insights God offers us.

E – Exercise the application. If we want to grow stronger in our faith, it’s not enough to study God’s Word; we must live it!

As leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations, we must continue to make choices and take actions that matter to others. Our actions and reactions to daily events and life events tell the story of our life in Christ, which is important to others. We have only one choice to do what is right, do it right away, and do it the right way.

I encourage each of us to make a difference and add value to others by preparing our heart, asking God to speak to us, unpacking the message to simplify it for others to understand with our life’s walk and talk, summarizing the scripture to apply to real world events, and exercising the application of the Word for others to convey of the strength of faith, hope, joy, and unconditional love for others. As leaders, we should follow Solomon’s wisdom; give 70% of our time to areas of strength; give 25% of our time to areas to improve, and give 5% of our time to the areas of our weakness. 1 Kings 10:1-9.

Have a wonderful day, 

James Dodwell

Make A U-Turn

Have you ever been lost? I have, or I should say we have, my family and I. Many vacation trips ago, before GPS and smartphones with guidance apps, we would drive to a vacation destination without an electronic voice telling us to “Stay in the two left lanes” or telling us “In one-mile exit to the right” or in my case, “Make a U-turn, then proceed to the route.” Instead, we had a large road atlas with all 50 states with interstates, highways, and county roads shown in detail on colorful maps. We would plot out our course with a high-lite marker and set off on our adventure. “Adventure” is the word my wife uses when we or I lose our way. It puts a positive spin on “not really knowing” where we are and takes some of the pressure off the pilot. I do not recall a time we traveled on vacation without at least one “adventure” sometimes, we were lucky enough to have several “adventures.” Just saying…

I have a decent, if not a good, sense of direction. Growing up enjoying the outdoors, hunting, fishing, exploring helped me find my way around in unfamiliar territory by seeking landmarks I could follow back to my starting point. A large tree, a pile of boulders, a game trail, the position of the sun, and so on and so forth; however, lately, the “lost” I am feeling has nothing to do with travel or exploring unfamiliar territory; it comes from deep within. The effect is an unusual experience for someone like me, an extroverted personality who enjoys learning new things, exploring new territories, conversing with others, and sharing my faith. 

If I had to describe the feeling of uncertainty within, I would use the Six Sigma term “Cause and Effect.” The “Cause” is in part due to the changes we have experienced in the world around us. We have experienced dramatic, unprecedented changes over the past several months, and it has been difficult to keep up and maintain a positive mental attitude due in part to the pandemic dilemma but, more importantly, having to remain distant and away from others, friends, family, new acquaintances. The “Effect” is an alone, lost feeling within that waxes and wanes. Some days the emptiness is barely noticeable; other days, it is much stronger.

The Good News is knowing this is just a season in my life, and God has His healing hand on us as He directs our lives. He is the ultimate navigator, the true north on our moral compass. As leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations, we must understand GPS is not short for Global Positioning System; it is short for “God’s Providence = Success.” We must never forget that the greatest model for our leadership direction always comes from the life of God himself. 

As leaders, when we find ourselves lost in the world, we should understand He provides comfort and cleansing to His people through comfort and security. He makes the path straight for us, then has us speak His words through empowerment and delegation. He provides good news and guides His people like a Shepherd through His Shepherding and direction.

We must understand no one can challenge God’s strength. He is a leader with unequaled power. He has the ultimate power and authority and lights the path for us to follow. He is the transcendent leader who builds and develops us. He is the creator and developer. He is the source for every need we have as wise counselor and provider.

It is in these few words I find comfort, strength, security, and a new sense of direction by knowing He is the Light and the Way to getting back on a familiar path with the understanding leaders must not only endure change, but they must also create it. “Spoiler Alert” leaders are normal people, human beings who are susceptible to the same feelings as everyone else. We sometimes suffer from the hardening of attitudes. We sometimes lose perspective on what real problems look like and what God can do. However, what makes the difference in a leader is their ability to focus on His promise and gifts of hope, faith, joy, and unconditional love and not focus on our problems.

I want to encourage each of us, when we find ourselves lost in the world; remember, God has a plan for our life, and wants us to rely on Him as we set the example and remain useful. Together, we as leaders are gifted abilities and talents to help us know to remain useful. We must be stretched and challenged; we must draw our identity from God, and we must possess stable values. I am encouraged that we, as leaders, understand when we are stretched and challenged, remain secure in Him, and remain solid in our convictions; we will be directed from the darkness into the light where we will find strength in Him to make a difference and add value to those around us. Jeremiah 13-1:11

Have a wonderful day,

James

Do I Know You?

There is an old story about two men arriving at the Pearly gates about the same time. One of the men was excited beyond measure and the other sullen and looking a little afraid. The excited man said, “Hey, friend what is the matter, you should be happy.” The sullen man said, “I don’t know where I am and what to be happy about.” “Well,” said the excited man, “You are at the Pearly gates of heaven and we as Christians are about to be invited in.” The sullen man was thoughtful for a moment, then said, “I don’t know anything about this heaven, or what being a Christian means nor what to expect.”

The excited man said, “I have spent my life sharing the gospel and living an exemplary life helping others and doing what is right, my life’s walk and work spoke volumes about being a Christian”, “Say, you look familiar do I know you?” The sullen man replied, “Well, I should look familiar, I was your next-door neighbor for 20 years.”

There have been many times over the course of my life when I had the perfect opportunity to share my faith with someone and was as quiet as a church mouse. I am unsure why I did not say anything, other than the fact I felt unsure of what I could say and if it would be received as a positive message of hope and unconditional love or be taken as me being a pushy, self-righteous Bible thumper. Either way, I failed to share the Good News with a neighbor. The odd thing is I can remember almost every time I had the opportunity to share and did nothing. I believe these memories are God’s gift to me as “teachable moments” meant to challenge me going forward and to build a vision off their values.

As I pondered over this challenge, I was led to Mark 8:34-36, it begins “…He said to them, “Whoever desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross and follow me…””. He was communicating how to lead and set an example for others to follow.  Leadership is servanthood. There is no other definition that better defines a leader. We as leaders, must let our purpose prioritize our life. As in the story at the beginning the exited man had the heart and knowledge of what he should have been doing but he was not focused with a purpose of reaching others. We must live the life before we can lead others. We cannot share what we do not know for ourselves and we cannot give away what we do not possess. 

Our impact, as leaders, comes from relationships, not positions. Anyone can have a position but building a relationship takes special people with a heart for others. Leaders must replenish themselves. Our pastor said it best one afternoon while he was visiting my office. He said, “I just came from a meeting with my pastor to get my tank refilled.” Yes, even good pastor’s need a mentor to help them stay focused and recharged. Therefore, we should surround ourselves with people who can and will offer support as a Christian mentor and are willing to be honest with us. As leaders, we must call for commitment. We as, “Shepherds” must be committed to protecting our “flock”, sharing our faith, offering hope, expressing joy, and providing unconditional love for others to set the example.

As leaders, we must show security when handling tough issues because credibility comes by meeting needs and solving problems. We must choose and develop key people. People with a heart for serving others, a gift of being able to communicate clearly and concisely, and a willingness to do what is right in difficult situations. Also, as leaders, we must understand there is no success without a successor. Which brings me to my point, if we, as leaders, do not take the time to share the Good News with others and go the extra mile to develop those around us, what will our leadership look like in the future? Just saying…

I encourage each of us as leaders, to understand, “Leadership IS servanthood” at its finest. Good leaders are the difference makers in our society. We must take the opportunity to make a difference and add value to all those around us, daily. Whether it is through our talk or our walk it is our responsibility to share the Good News about faith, hope, joy, and unconditional love. Mark 8:34-36

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

Who Was That Masked Man?

Who was that masked man? This question was on my mind recently when our son and his family visited with us to celebrate our Christmas gifting with them. We have five grands, three of them foster children, and two of the "fosters" were unsure about a big, jolly man with smiling eyes and a mask covering half of his face, dressed in casual attire and not a Santa suit. They walked around and gave me a few sideways glances. However, once I spoke to them, they recognized my voice and decided it was okay to come to me even if I was not dressed as Santa.

Our Christmas celebration was a little different this year, as I am sure was the same for your families. We are usually all bunched up at our son's in-laws on Christmas eve afternoon to visit all our daughters-in-law's side of the family. We share a meal, a little dirty Santa gift exchange, then we all nestle down, snug in our beds with visions of sugar plums dancing in our heads for a long winter's nap. Christmas morning, we rise to see what Santa left for everyone. It is always a wonderful time. However, we sorely missed the warmth of being with all our family and sharing the gift of wide-eyed, surprised, excitement children have on Christmas morning. 

But, no matter, it was the correct decision for all our families because it is virtually impossible to control something you cannot see or touch, and it is up to us as leaders in our families, communities, and organizations, to follow the guidelines and do our level best to keep everyone as safe as possible. 

As I am writing this letter, I am reminded of the importance of having spiritual leadership in our homes and lives. Spiritual leaders assume the responsibility for the health of their relationships. This means they set the tone. They must initiate what they want others to do. Because no home can thrive without functioning according to sound leadership principles. In 1 Peter, the author challenges us to live with each other in an understanding way. We should honor one another and model submission and service. As spiritual leaders, we should initiate blessing rather than retaliate when things do not go our way.

In these unprecedented times, spiritual leadership is a "must-have" and a "must-do" in our families, communities, and organizations. We must be willing to step up and show patience, kindness, humbleness, faith, hope, joy, and unconditional love for others. When Spiritual leaders lead, they remember the example of Christ's sufferings. When they shepherd, they do it out of a sense of privilege rather than obligation. When they serve, they are motivated by the will of God rather than man. When they minister, they are driven by a Godly passion, not personal gain. When they are influencing, they make sure their life example speaks clearly. And when sacrificing, they have the patience to wait for the ultimate reward and do not expect immediate pay.

In this role, a leader is called to be a minister to the people. We should serve before being served, you know, be the hands and feet of Christ. We should be a mentor to the people. We should eagerly invest our time and talents when serving the people. In other words, we must set an example for others to follow. We should be a manager of the people. We have a responsibility and should exercise oversight over those who have been entrusted in our care, not just family but all those who surround us. Finally, spiritual leaders should/must be a model for the people. We should set an example for others to follow by demonstrating how to live our lives. You know by making a difference and adding value to all those surrounding us.

I want to encourage each of us to be the example of spiritual leadership for others to follow. It has been a tough year for all of us with the uncertainties of the pandemic plaguing our lives, and each day I pray for each of us to experience good health and the unconditional love of Jesus Christ in our lives. Remember, "A leader is to humble himself or herself by casting all his/her cares on God," 1 Peter 5:7. What better way to make a difference and add value than to follow His example for our lives, just saying… 1 Peter 5:1-4

Have a wonderful day.

James Dodwell

Yes, You Have A Choice

Let’s all sing - “It’s the most wonderful time of the year, There’ll be much mistletoeing, And hearts will be glowing; When loved ones are near; It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Yes, the most wonderful time of the year!” Now that this classic, Andy Williams, Christmas tune is now an earwig and stuck in your head, I wanted to remind you, there are only a few days remaining until Christmas. We are looking forward to Christmas with the wonderful blessing of being with our family and friends and our grandchildren are so excited it makes us feel like children, again. So, it is also the “Hap-happiest time of the year!”

A friend and I were discussing happiness, recently when he said he wished this holiday feeling was year-round not just a short few weeks. I was a little surprised because I believe happiness and the feeling within or without is a choice that each of us make. It reminded me of a quote by John Stuart Mill, “I have learned to seek happiness by limiting my desires rather than in attempting to satisfy them.” In other words, it is our choice to simplify our lives and be happy where we are. At least, that is my take on it.

Our whole life is nothing more than a canvas of choices. What choice could you make right now to change your life in a significant and lasting way? We are different from everyone else on planet earth. There has never been anyone like us, and there never will, again. Our spirit, our thoughts and feelings, our ability to reason – all of these things exist collectively only in us. Our eyes are incomparable; they are windows to a soul that is also uniquely ours. A single strand of our hair contains DNA that can only be traced to us. Of the multitudes that have come before us and the multitudes that follow, not one of them duplicates the formula by which we are made.

We are different from everyone else! We are special! And we are chosen, loved unconditionally and offered a life of salvation, free to all who ask. The qualities, many of them rare, that make us one of a kind are no accident.

Why have we been created different and unique from everyone else? We have been made different so that we may make a difference and add value to each other. That’s right, because in some way, form or fashion, we are changing the world – you are changing the world for someone around you, right now. Every choice we make and action we take matters to someone. Every choice we do not make and every action we do not take, matters just as much. Millions of lives are being altered, caught up in a chain of events initiated by us this very day. We choose what chain of events we will initiate; whether we realize it or not.

We need to understand that we have been given everything we need to act, and the choice is ours alone. Beginning this very moment, we will choose wisely. We should never feel inadequate, again. We will not dwell in thoughts of insignificance or be content with wandering aimlessly. We are powerful. We matter. We have the choice, and we are the choice. We have been chosen to make a difference and add value to all those who surround us.

In the words of the infamous Dr. Suess, “Just tell yourself, Duckie, you’re really quite lucky!” And we are. We have the freedom to share our faith, hope, joy and unconditional love with others, unimpeded and without fear of retaliation. Yes, I am giddy with emotions as we anticipate Christmas morning watching our grands surprised faces as they open their gifts, but it is more than that – We are giddy knowing we are free to worship a powerful God who loves us unconditionally and so much that He sent His only Son to earth to teach us how to Love one another.

I want to encourage each of us as leaders in our homes, communities and organizations that leaders assume the responsibility for the health of their relationships with those around us. This means they set the tone – we set the tone. They must initiate what they want others to do. It is my prayer that you and yours have a very Merry Christmas and come to understand you are the difference maker! Luke 2:11

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

What's All This Stuff?

Our son and his family were preparing for a week's trip to the lake. They had packed the necessary items in the vehicle, and then they loaded the children into their car seats. Our grandson asked, "Dad, are we moving again?" "No, son, why do you ask?" Our grandson loudly exclaimed, "Then why is all this stuff in the car?" After our son stopped laughing, he explained to him with five children, it takes a lot of stuff to meet the needs of their family when one must plan for a week away. Too funny… children do not miss anything.

It is difficult to imagine the amount of "stuff" it takes to equip a family of five children and two adults, especially when three of the children are still in diapers and are bottle-fed. There are snacks of all kinds, fruit of all kinds, soy milk, almond milk, cereal, wipes, towels, several changes of clothes for each child, three sizes of diapers, bottles, formula, and so on and so forth. This list does not include all the favorite toys and games, life jackets, and strollers; the list is just endless, and then something important always gets left behind. Just saying…

As I ponder our grandson questioning why and our son explaining to him about the need for all the stuff they needed to equip them for a few days away, I am reminded of the story in Luke 10 when Jesus appointed a team of seventy leaders to go out on a ministry tour. Jesus had the huge job of equipping the seventy with everything they needed for the tour. It was not just stuff but also wisdom to help them succeed on their mission. 

Our son and his wife had a checklist of necessary items, and then of the things they "wanted," provided everything could fit into the vehicle. As Jesus prepared the seventy, He too had a list of items which were more instructions to empower the team before He sent them out:

First, He chose each one, hand-picked them, and appointed them to the mission. Next, He gave them meaningful tasks to prepare cities for His arrival, instructions, and examples of things and situations they might/would encounter. Next, He told them why the mission was so important. They needed to know what the plan was to stay on point and not deviate from the mission.

Then He calmed their fears with a long preparation speech. He explained as they entered a city to remain in the same house eating and drinking what was put before them. Heal the sick and tell them, "The Kingdom of God has come near to you." However, if the city does not receive them well, wipe off the very dust of that city that clings to them, and leave. Next, He cautions them about possible hardships because nothing of value comes without sacrifice. Next, He issued specific instructions about certain scenarios they might encounter and provide examples of how to work through them. He imparted His convictions about their work and the importance of their work to the mission.

As they began to return, He rejoiced with them. Each returned with joy in their hearts and filled with the Holy Spirit. He then evaluated and debriefed them on their experience. They were excited and told wonderful stories of conquering demons and evil spirits in His name; because they had been equipped and gifted empowerment from Him, they were successful. Finally, He prayed with them and affirmed their gifts and their future. He prayed, "Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you… rejoice because your names are written in heaven."

Sometimes you need a lot of stuff to be prepared for anything that might come along. Stuff that we need is more important than the stuff we want. Jesus understood the stuff the seventy needed and provided it to them to be prepared for anything they might encounter on their mission.

Let us be encouraged today that He has provided us everything we need to be successful in sharing our faith, hope, joy, and unconditional love for others. As leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations, we must use all this "stuff" to go out among the people to make a difference and add value to others. Luke 10:1-24

James Dodwell

Out of Control...Into the Water

Do you ever feel your life is out of control, spinning so fast that you cannot focus on one thing long enough to plant your foot and stop? What??? Yes, me, also. It happens too often these days with all the things happening in our lives, especially now during these times; even in the time way long ago, we now identify as the "pre-covid era", we called "normal" controlling a circumstance depended on the altitude of our attitude. After all, our attitude is controlled by our attitude, which gives us the ability to rise above a situation and review our options with a little more understanding. Lower altitudes inhibit our ability to look ahead or to see through all the stuff that is blocking our vision, on the other hand, higher altitudes allow us to see farther, "Granting us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference." 

Recently, our son's family came for a visit, and we went to the lake to enjoy the afternoon around the water. The water was extremely rough on that day due to wind and the number of other boaters enjoying their day. While on the boat the grans were stumbling around wanting to stand at the sides and watch the wake cast by the pontoons, but the bounce and rough ride cause them balance issues so we had to kind of subdue them and keep them still, impossible for a four and three year young full of energy, fueled by goldfish, grapes, fruit snacks along with a Capri sun juice packet or twelve. So, we decided to retire back to our friend's house to just get in the water, which was fine with our grandson because our friend's grandson was visiting them. He couldn't wait to share the afternoon playing in the sand and water with him.

It was a nice afternoon, chatting it up with good, longtime friends, talking about anything and everything, and watching the children entertain themselves. Once we begin to gather our belongings to leave, I was standing on the dock listening to the final conversations of the day when I stepped back to grab the cooler and begin to feel myself getting out of control. I could not move my feet fast enough to maintain my balance, and I started to fall backward off the dock. I wished I could have seen me from a different perspective. I bet I was a sight, arms flailing, legs and feet fighting for some solid surface, but to no avail, my body was out of control, falling like a tree being felled right into the shallow water. I remember thinking in those few seconds how out of control I felt, nothing I could do by then to prevent the fall and splash into the water. Oh, I was grabbing at everything, air, birds, dock post, but nothing was there to catch my fall, so I just gave in and patiently awaited my landing, which wasn't bad after I relinquished trying to maintain total control of the situation. It took a minute for everyone to realize what had happened, no harm, no foul, then the laughter began, and it was all good; wet and a little embarrassing; but refreshingly good. 

As leaders, we have been gifted an attitude of altitude to share with our followers. We are representatives of control and guidance for them in our walk and in our talk. It's God's gift to leaders who follow Him as we represent the hands and feet of Christ Jesus. Our vision has been cast, and we have an obligation as leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations to assist in maintaining some control to situations seemingly chaotic and hectic. As leaders, I believe it must do more with controlling self than controlling a situation or others. We walk among the people, share our hope, our faith, our joy, and our unconditional love. Jesus did not come and die for us to live a defeated life. He died to give us life everlasting, undefeated by the problems of the world. If we as leaders, retreat, our followers retreat, if we stand bold as lions (Proverbs 28:1), guess what, they will also.

The Bible warns us if we do not control self, first, we will be slaves to what controls us, food, lust, money, our words, our circumstances, and on and on. Controlling self is the very foundation for living a life of righteousness and selflessness that reflects Jesus and brings glory to God. He has gifted us the power to keep our life in control if we would only lean into Him and ask it in His name.

I encourage each of us to understand it is time to get into the word of God and allow Scripture to change our hearts and minds. Leaders reach out to others and help them understand that maintaining control starts with taking small steps each day to bring our thoughts and actions back in line with God's plan for our lives. After all, how do you eat an elephant, that is right, one bite at a time. Just saying… So today go out there, yes out there in a world of indecision and chaos, to make a difference and add value by sharing your faith, hope, joy, and the unconditional love of Jesus Christ with others. Galatians 5:22-23

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

Searching for Contentment...

Contentment is the word and feeling I am pondering today. It came to me in a dream a few nights ago, and I can not stop thinking about it. There are many ways to define contentment and how to be content with our lives. I have logged several quotes over the years in my journal. Some of them include the word happiness, faith, joy, hope, and love, but each reminds us we should believe that God is working in our lives, and we should believe in ourselves. Why? Because through Him, we are braver than we think, more talented than we know, and more capable than we imagine.

Contentment comes in many different forms for each of us. For me, I am most content when I am around and with my family. Recently, our son and his family visited for the day, and everyone gathered in different areas of our home, porch, kitchen, yard, etc. However, our grandson and I were sitting comfortably together on the couch, him leaned back under my arm watching cartoons, and the world was at peace. What made it even better? Our granddaughter climbed onto my lap and joined us. There was very little conversation; it was mostly their laughter filling the conversation gap as we watched the silliness on the screen. They were safe from harm; they were free to be themselves, comfortable in my arms, and they were happy and laughing and me; well, I was in a state of bliss. In other words, I was content at that moment with everything in my world.

Philippians 4:11-13 begins and ends with two sentences I have printed on a label, taped and attached to a spot I see every day to help me remember who oversees my life. The verses read, “Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him that strengthens me.” I have read these sentences more days than I can remember to which, I am always reminded, He has got this. He is in control. All I need to do is allow Him to remain in control, not try to do it by myself, and to live a life filled with faith, hope, joy, unconditional love, and contentment.

Maya Angelou wrote, “We need much less than we think we need.” So true, when we look to fill a void in our lives with possessions or money, we only end up wanting more. All those things we fill our lives with are not necessarily bad, but when they become the end goals and reason for our being, we become discontented because those things were never meant to fulfill us.

The only place we can really find fulfillment and true contentment is in Christ. In other words, true contentment is not something we find in things, people, or circumstances. It is only to be discovered in our commitment. Rob Kubin said it best, “We have to choose to rest on God’s good promises despite what may be going on in our lives.” And currently, we have a lot going on in our lives. We are worried about the pandemic and its effect on our lives, our families, our communities, and our organizations. As leaders, we must hold fast to our convictions and values to light the paths for others to follow. As leaders, we must remember to light a candle in the darkest moments of someone’s life. Be the light that helps others see; it is what gives life its deepest significance.

I encourage us as leaders to use our light to make a difference and add value to others. Be significant in their lives. I found a poem written by Roy Bennett that I saved and will conclude with today. It is titled Don’t Just…

Don’t just learn, experience. Don’t just read, absorb. Don’t just change, transform. Don’t just relate, advocate. Don’t just criticize, encourage. Don’t just think, ponder. Don’t just take, give. Don’t just see, feel. Don’t just dream, do. Don’t just hear, listen. Don’t just talk, act. Don’t just tell, show. Don’t just exist, LIVE! Philippians 4:13

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

Life With Assurance

A friend came by for a visit, recently. We exchanged pleasantries about how each of our families was doing, asked if anything was new and how was business; you know, the usual small talk between old friends. Then he began talking about the issues plaguing the world, communities, and families with the current situation. One thing he brought up was how everyone, even him, is living in apprehension and fear and it was very concerning. These words surprised me coming from him because this is a man who, years ago, left everything behind to move his family to Africa, without any knowledge of where they would be living or how they would survive in a strange environment to do missionary work for 20 plus years. Although I thought he was taking a big chance, at the time, the thing that most impressed me about him, and his family, was that they were fearless and focused to endeavor to persevere in their mission to build churches, schools, and other infrastructure to aid the people in Africa. With the Church in support of them, many prayers, and their faith in Jesus Christ, they did just what they set out to do, make a difference and add value to others.

During our visit, the conversation began to stir up feelings of apprehension and fear within me, because, as you know, the past few months have been extremely stressful for all of us and our families; then to create more chaos, the issue with the demonstrations in different cities has compounded the uneasiness of the normally calm, cool and collected, guardian, alpha male in my family. I believe what has troubled me the most is knowing how our faith can falter or become unstable if we allow apprehensions to enter our thinking and we forget to take a deep, spiritual breath of God’s assurance. The only way to remove fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) from our lives is to listen to God’s assurance to us. Just saying…

Although I prefer to hold these feelings close, sometimes even a big boy like me becomes fearful and is filled with apprehension during troubled times. When this happens, I refer to our instruction manual, the Bible and in the Book of Hebrews verses 13:5-6, it states, “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So, we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” In other words, we should not be obsessed with apprehension or fear. This does not mean we will not be tempted to fear or be apprehensive, but we should lean into God’s words of assurance to help us strengthen our resolve and not allow our faith to falter.

When I read this passage, I am reminded of the spiritual leaders and mentors who have blessed my life by sharing their faith, hope, joy, and unconditional love for me. They were always taking time out of their busy schedules to assist me when I failed and when I succeeded. They would politely listen then offer paths to solutions. They did not tell me what to do or how to do it, they simply helped me find my own way and helped me come to my own realization of what needed to be done. They supported my decisions good and bad, and helped me to grow and stretch. Sometimes I got “skin’t up” with some of my lame-brained attempts at growth, but overall, it was not too bad. 

As I ponder the latter, these Spiritual leaders and mentors are placed in our lives to remind us Jesus Christ is always there for us and He is the same yesterday, today and forever. In other words, the wisdom God placed into those spiritual leaders and mentors in years gone by, He can and will do the same for you and me! If we will lean into Him, He will liberate us from fear and apprehension, free us from worry and strife, empower us with knowledge, wisdom and skills that will help us to stretch and grow to reach our potential. Simply stated, they were there to make a difference and add value to us and as we mature, we will be able to do the same for others.

I encourage each of us as leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations to practice the discipline of self. Lean into the Lord who is the ultimate spiritual leader and mentor for our lives. People follow leaders because they see a life, they believe they can trust and one they want to emulate. Be that leaders. Believe, you are that leader. Understand when fear and apprehension begin to creep into our life and our walk, we have a solution, God’s assurance and when we yield to His assurance, we produce a life worth following. It will make a difference and add value. Hebrews 13:5-6

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

"The Easter Bunny Came but the Ice Cream Truck Didn't"

To say, “Things have been different around our house, this week” is an understatement. The storms that rolled through our area on Sunday morning devastated our neighborhood and surrounding community. Our home suffered minor damage as compared to many others in our neighborhood, and over the last few days, the definition of community, “Come Unite” has been evident all over. People have come together to help each other remove trees from homes, start repairs, cover damaged roofs, and just clear and clean up debris.

We have been without power since Sunday morning. Cold showers are refreshing in the early morning, but it is not my favorite way to start each day. The humming of generators, the sounds of revving chain saw motors, leaf blowers, and other gas-powered equipment has become the usual sounds of the day and evenings. The nights seem darker almost completely black without the streetlights filtering through the blinds as usual. The occasional swath of light from headlights on utility trucks and other vehicles patrolling the neighborhood was hardly noticed just a few days ago, but now when we see a little light, we are caught peering out of the windows like baby birds looking through the opening on a birdhouse, just the see the darkness fade away, if only for a brief second.

Just last evening, my wife and I were sitting together, talking about anything and everything, staring into the light of a table lamp I had plugged into an extension cord from the generator. She said, “You know, the light from the lamp, after experiencing so much darkness, makes things feel a little more normal and gives me hope.” I was quiet and thoughtful for a moment after she made this statement, listening to the humming sound from the generator supplying the power for the “Light,” and pondering seeing how the community had come together as one when I recalled something I had read, “We need to be ready in and out of season to do His will.” 

As leaders, in our homes, communities, and organizations, we must understand we are here to submit to His will so that He may work through us what He wants. He will make us broken bread and poured-out wine with which to feed and nourish others. It is a good thing to see all the people come together for the good of others, but it shouldn’t take a storm or disaster or a pandemic to make us move in the direction of making a difference and adding value to others. This is something we should always be doing. I am very guilty of inaction, at times. I fall prey to shutting out the world by living in a bubble. I am guilty of falling into the routine of my daily life that serves only my needs and wants, failing to be of service to the needs and wants of others. I think we all do this on occasion.

I do not like to acknowledge that sometimes, just maybe, it takes a storm, disaster, or pandemic to jolt us back to reality to make us realize we are not living alone on an island. We are a community, a team of people, living together, depending on each other, disciples serving one another, serving Him. 2 Timothy 4:2 says, “Preach the Word! Be ready in season and out of season.” We should always “be ready,” whether we like it or not. Because, if we do what only what we feel inclined to do, some of us would never do anything. I am saddened to admit that, on occasions, I have resembled the last statement.

On a lighter note, my wife gave our grandchildren some money in an Easter card to purchase a popsicle from the ice cream truck that frequents their neighborhood in the afternoons. The Monday after Easter their mother was standing with them awaiting the arrival of the truck to their neighborhood, which on that day was a no show. Disappointed, they started back to the house when one of the grands sighed, “Well, the Easter bunny came, but the ice cream truck didn’t.” And a child shall lead them… This simple statement helps me to understand that if we seek and follow the things of this world we are bound to experience some temporary disappointments in our lives, but if we seek and follow Him, His gift of grace will provide us with salvation, faith, hope, joy and unconditional love, forever. 

I encourage each of us to “Come Unite” in community, putting our focus on Him. In Matthew 6:33, Jesus said, “Seek ye first the kingdom of God…” He was telling us is that the greatest concern of life is to place our relationship with God first and everything else second. It will make a difference and add value to all of us. 2 Timothy 4:2

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

I Want to Go to “You” House

In the past, I have avoided using “social media” as much as possible because you lose track of time when surfing Facebook posts and all the other things available. However, during this “Staycation” we are all experiencing social media, particularly “Face Time” has been a wonderful thing as we’re practicing “Social Distancing” with our family, friends, and work associates. It’s difficult when you want, but can’t, visit your children and grandchildren, but it is better to be safe in this current world environment. It’s even more difficult for young children who are used to seeing their Ce-Ce at least once a week, in person, to understand the complexities of having to be separated from the loving arms, hugs, and kisses of their Ce-Ce.

Recently, during a “Face Time” visit with our son and his family, our granddaughter said; “I want to go to YOU house, Ce-Ce!” “I know darling, but you can’t right now, I will see you soon”, sighed Ce-Ce. ” I want to go to YOU house, Ce-Ce!” she said with much more volume and inflection in her voice as if Ce-Ce didn’t understand. But oh, how she understood. “I sorry darling, not today, but soon, okay?” “I lub you Ce-Ce, I lub you, Pa-Pa!”, those sweet grandchildren shouted as we ended the call, with heavy hearts and almost in tears.

The “interaction interruption” that has recently plagued our world and altered our lives hasn’t been easy on anyone and has touched every aspect of our existence in some way, form, or fashion. This microscopic evil has created an unwanted paradigm shift in all our lives; meaning our lives will never be the same and the change will take us to a new normal; who knows what that will look like in the future and when we can begin again. However, we can hope we will come back stronger and more aware of what is truly important to all of us, God – Family - Career in this order.

Outside of the family interaction and workplace interruption, one of the most obvious and disturbing shifts is the suspension of our coming together as a church family for worship. When I think about it, our granddaughter’s words ring true and clear, “I want to go to YOU house. “, and I want to follow that up by saying, “I want to go to YOU house, Jesus.” I don’t want to take no for an answer or hear any other excuses why I can’t. However, for the sake of helping to keep our families, friends, community, and world safe and healthy we must comply and be patient, for now. We must continue praying for His healing touch on our lives and our world. When the healing comes and it will, we need to celebrate by filling our places of worship to overflowing and share our faith, hope, joy, and unconditional love like He intended for us to do.

Difficult times are calling for leaders to correct and direct the people back to the narrow path. They are gifted the skills and the power over people. This gift is not to brow-beat the people or hit them over the head with the Bible but to show them the way through their walk, actions, and reactions. Effective leaders emerge during difficult times to speak the cause for righteousness. They are truly burdened by the world’s condition and want to help by being a source of light and hope. As we watch effective spiritual leaders in action, we should be reminded that we serve a God of order and harmony, not of chaos as Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 14:33, “God is not the author of confusion but of peace.” 

During this “interaction interruption” we are being transformed. We as leaders need to understand that our leadership is needed now more than ever because leadership is about transformation, not mere information. However, information is important to transformation as leaders challenge the people to pray in the Spirit. They share hope and unconditional love for the people. They have compassion on the doubters and help lead them into the Light. 

I encourage each of us, once this too has passed, to go to YOU house, Jesus and celebrate His love and forgiveness with our Church family. As leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations, be the hope and the light for others to follow. Stay focused, be safe and do all you can to make a difference and value to others. 1 Corinthians 14:33

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell

Where Are You?

When I think about what is happening in the world today, I am reminded of the few words that begin the book, “A Tale of Two Cities” … “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way – in short, the period was so far like the present period, that some of its noisiest authorities insisted on its being received, for good or for evil, in the superlative degree of comparison only.”

What this says to me is it is not where we start but how we finish. Maybe my comparison or interpretation of this is incorrect, but the way I understand it, God gives every one of us a good – enough start to be able to finish well. It’s up to us to see to our character and build trust with others so that God can use us as leaders in our homes, communities, and organizations to make a difference and add value. We have this responsibility to follow in His footsteps and not be so mesmerized and controlled by what the world offers us. After all, He gave us a written life plan in a book, that’s printed in black, white and red and is the only book that comes with the author; we just need to follow it, simple enough.

A close friend, a brother; really, sent a message, just this morning. Three simple sentences with a powerful meaning; 1. It is a rare man who finishes strong; 2. It is an excellent man who finishes strong; 3. It is a teachable man who finishes strong. All I can say is message received, loud and clear. Our character and integrity should coincide with each of these statements and at the same time, our walk-through life should reflect our rare strength, our excellence, and our teachability so brightly that others can see the path on which to follow. I read recently, if more people would follow the narrow path through life, it would be much wider and easier to follow. Just saying… 

In the best of times and in the worst of times, as leaders, we have a responsibility to provide instruction just as Jesus instructed His disciples on how to pray. Our family, our followers, those who watch us from afar are directly affected by our actions and reactions to good and bad things that past though our lives. As leaders, we must set the example for everyone else, in other words, we are to be the model. We must provide for others in some form or fashion, ensuring they have the resources they need. It could be teaching someone a new skill, helping others to find their way, praying with others or as simple as loving one another unconditionally.

We need to keep them from harm’s way and make them feel safe and secure. There are many ways to do this but just being in there for someone, listening, being kind, sharing our faith, joy, hope, and love is a mighty powerful tool with helping others feel safe and secure. We must remember that prayer and praying with and for our family, our followers, those who watch us from afar and the leaders of our country and world to reach their potential and become all God intends us and them to be is one of the most important gifts we offer. 

On a lighter note, recently, we were visiting our son, his wife and our grandchildren. Our granddaughter crawled into my lap to reach the sunglasses I had perched on my head when the slipped down in place over my eyes. She began to look around then said, “Pa Pa, where did you go too?” I responded, “Sweetheart, I am right here, holding you.” “I can’t see you.”, she said. Then I removed my sunglasses, “There you are, Pa Pa!” As I pondered this scene, I realized she could not see my eyes so, therefore, she couldn’t see me, the real me. She didn’t just want to see my big body and face, she wanted me looking into her eyes to let her know I was watching and really listening to her. Watching and listening with my eyes let her know I was focusing on her and her alone, watching out for her safety and security and being a resource that provides unconditional love for her and her family.

Now, I don’t think at 2 years young she thought through all of this as I have written it, but I do believe she understands we love her and will do anything to protect all of them, just as God does for us.

I encourage all of us as leaders and followers to be in prayer for our world to be healed and made whole once again. It is my hope and prayer that this message finds each of you in good health. I read that Jesus’s work would have failed unless His followers had taken what He gave them and reproduced it in the lives of others. He trusted the future of his organization, the church, to take His message forward into the world. Let us reproduce Him in our lives and be the change we want to see in the world, it will make a difference and add value to us and all those who surround us. Luke 24:46-49

Have a wonderful day and be safe,

James Dodwell

Tell Your Story

On one particular day in February, for most of my life, my grandmother would pull me to the side and tell me a story, a story of family. She would always begin with, “It was cold, snowy day and most of the roads were closed between here and Birmingham…” then go on to say how the weather had quickly turned bad, just prior to taking my mother to the hospital, that day. She continued her tale about how my dad was in the Air Force stationed somewhere in Nebraska and was trying to get home but was stopped short in Birmingham, Al. at the bus station due to the snow. The only way for him to get home was to hitchhike, which in those days was safer, so that is what he did. 

Everyone was at the hospital waiting on my Dad and anticipating the birth of their first child. He didn’t make it in time for the birth, but he did make it later into the night. Once he arrived, his story was more vivid as he had to walk a couple of miles in the snow in sock feet because he had given his boots to a lady who was in the same predicament, trying to get home, and all she had was high heels. Well, they both caught the same truck into town, he got his shoes back and she went on to south Alabama. The story was something special to my grandmother because it spoke of the determination and strength of the human spirit when a person sets their mind to make something seemingly impossible happen.

Every year the story was enhanced somewhat with the snow getting deeper, the distance walked in sock feet became a little further, the temperature a little lower, and so on and so forth, but all in all, the story and the outcome was basically the same. I remember as I grew older how much I did not like being told the same story year after year, but my grandmother revelled in the telling it so I would patiently listen, eyes rolling, waiting for it to end so I could escape the unwanted attention. Some of the details are vague when it comes to the story because, after a while, I quit listening, but the memory of the joy it brought my grandmother to enlighten me and anyone within earshot, is crystal clear in my mind.

As I ponder this memory, I recall how uncomfortable it made me to be the center of attention for just a moment in time on those birthday celebrations, long ago and how much I did not want to hear the story. However, today as I remember those times, years after the passing of my parents and grandparents, I think I would like to hear the story, a story of family, shared just once more, poured out with all the joy, happiness and love in the words and voice of my grandmother.

We all have a story. Our life is filled with memories of good things and bad things, happy times and sad times, times of success and times of failure, times of celebration and times of sacrament. These stories mold and shape our lives and make us who we are. Our past experiences, if evaluated can help us to stretch and grow to reach our potential in life. We need to take the time to evaluate our experiences, to dissect the events, use the knowledge, our stories and the teachable moments to provide us with wisdom to help us become an example for others to make a difference and add value. 

Jesus conveyed His wisdom to His followers through parables or stories used to illustrate examples of unconditional love, joy, faith, and hope. As leaders, wisdom can be our best friend, especially in times of decision. For example, He teaches us through the telling of the stories such as the Ten Talents in Matthew 25, which is near and dear to my heart because at times, I am the one who buried his talent under a stone and I need to be reminded on occasions we are gifted skills and talents to share not hoard. 

Wisdom gifts us a foundation that helps us draw conclusions at times we have an impasse in our lives. As leaders, we need to understand the foundation for every decision is to honor and revere God. The story above is sort of my heritage, it is mine and mine alone, but I have found it to be useful, especially when I can tell it to our grandchildren and share with them the determination and love of family it describes. We must build off this heritage and conscience to illustrate what values we need to embrace. As leaders, as we pursue wisdom, we first go to the facts, then to our options. Once we have a consensus of mind and heart, then we must move toward inward peace.

I encourage each of us to tell our stories. Use these precious moments to share with others about how God has enlightened us to the fact we are fearfully and wonderfully made in His image to make a difference and add value to all those surrounding us. Psalm 139:14

Have a wonderful day,

James Dodwell